I don’t believe I’ve read the book you mentioned, but will have to take a look at it at some point…That fear can be a lack of love is an interesting point of view. The strategy your mentioned also reminds me of emotional priming–a concept that research psychologists use, but I don’t think I’ve considered it in this way before. Thank you again for sharing it!

Cheers,

Brian

Love is all that matters and I have learnt a lot from Marianne Williamson’s book – A Return To Love – where she talks fear simply being a lack of love.

One way of reconnecting to love is to remember and visualise one particularly poignant loving moment from your past. Strongly anchor that in your mind and any time you wish to feel more loving, go back to that special moment of love and you will be feeling stong LOVE once again

Thanks for replying! …and you made some really interesting points here… Moving beyond words and labels is not such an easy thing! Because language is a natural human ability, relying on other representations of others and the larger world around us could be challenging. Any thoughts on sequential steps or exercises that could enable individuals to move toward a state of unconditional love? Just wondering…

Human beings create ego-based ideas of love. Humans assign a ‘human’ understanding of the notion of “condition.” Any perception of love that is narcissistic (vain) or self-serving is not unconditional. To evolve to realize positive and negative views are judgments humans invent is a step to moving beyond them.

To consult a dictionary for explanations of “conditional”, you find human interpretations of this term grounded in doubt and fear.

To move beyond human (ego-based) views, you peel away layers of conditioned beliefs, emotional values and judgments to arrive at a baseline state. This absolute is unconditional love. It is the state of a soul at birth before external influences obscure the truth and shape perception. It is the state of energy vibration before people tell you what is right and wrong and you adopt what you are told because you believe this is required for survival. You sense unconditional love when you feel it again. The experience defies words and human explanation. Every soul evolves back in this direction. You do so in the physical and beyond.

I agree that we all do learn from each other… Being in close contact with another only makes the mirror clearer; sometimes we don’t like what we see, but it is a good way of discovering more of ourselves through our own desires.

Unconditional love is rare, and I think the ability to love *anyone* as equal to the self is an important step, or even evaluate love as a quantifiable property. You mentioned that other emotions should ‘dissolve’, and I think this is an interesting choice of words. Perhaps love is the basis of all emotions, and these other emotions manifest when seen through the filter of Ego….